Work/Life Boundaries Help Families Thrive

With the flexibility to check e-mail at home, get the kids ready for school, call your boss on the way to work, and text message your next appointment, the nature of work has changed. However, contrary to popular opinion, people who integrate their work and families are not always happier, Michigan State University researchers say.

Instead, Ellen E. Kossek, PhD, a Michigan State professor of labor and industrial relations, found that people who establish boundaries between work and family are actually more connected to their families than those who integrate their jobs and personal lives. "We need to realize that it is OK to shut work out of our personal lives," said Dr. Kossek. "It's counter intuitive, but spending more time specifically on work may actually help you spend more quality time with your family." Surveying 95 supervisors and more than 300 of their employees, Dr. Kossek and her collaborators-Professors Susan C. Eaton, PhD,of Harvard University and Brenda A. Lautsch, PhD,of Simon Fraser University-studied how separating or integrating work with family obligations impacted workers' happiness, time at work and performance. They found that managers who integrate tend to have more work and family conflict than those who separate. "Work can take over our personal lives," said Dr. Kossek. "If you're working from the family computer in the middle of the family room, your kids see you at work and don't understand why you're physically there, but mentally you're someplace else. An easy way to begin to tell if you are an integrator or a separator is to ask, do you have one calendar or two? Do you have one key chain or two? Your ability to put up boundaries to your work and family may help improve your happiness. Setting Boundaries "If you must integrate, the best way to help your family is to have a separate door to the office," said Dr. Kossek. Some people are naturally more integrated in their style than separated. "Women managers, on the whole, are more likely to be integrators than men," said Dr.Kossek. Integration or separation can impact the amount of time an employee spends at work. "All these technological time-savers really end up taking more time," said Dr. Kossek, who found that, on average, people who worked from one office spent 43 hours per week at work, those in two places spent 45 hours per week at work and those working in three places spend an average of 52 hours per week at work a week. "Counter to the popular perception of flexibility allowing people to excel in both their work and personal lives, employees who used portable work were rated lower in performance evaluations by their supervisors," said Dr. Kossek. "Lower performance evaluations may actually be because supervisors do not know how to manage distance workers."